What’s the Must-Have for a Stay-at-Home Daddy?

Next to his mom - this is the best co-worker you could ever ask for.

A stay-at-home mommy – duh. It’s been something Angela and I have discussed for years and years and years, but we never thought it’d be a reality. But alas, Angela comes home from work for good next week, aside from a few hours a week at our church nursery.

I’ll be completely honest with you – I never imagined we’d be a single income family, especially with my name on the paychecks. It’s not a bragging point because truthfully, we’re blessed to be in the position we are right now.

My business, Ontempo Ideas, has gained tons of steam since January, serving the digital marketing and communication needs of a handful of local and regional clients, and there’s enough work that a five-month-old just won’t accommodate during the day. Plus: I’m in need of some help in the visual media department, so my lovely wife is headed home to aide in the matter.

What does that all mean? It means more family time, more ministry, more hugs and kisses, more out-of-town trips to see friends and family, more lunch and coffee get-togethers with local friends and colleagues, more productivity, more business ventures, more side-projects, more stories, more laughs and, of course, more blog posts to catalog it all. And maybe the witty and talented @angelaromack will share her viewpoint, as well?

Buckle up, friends. The Romacks are about to become a stay-at-home family. We’re those people now.

Is This 91 or 92? Oh, Good Grief – I’ve Lost Count

It’s been, to the surprise of no one, a whirlwind since I arrived back in College Station a week and a half ago, which is why I’ve completely forgotten to share the fact that I had a surgery scheduled this morning. I still have journal entries coming for the Daily Wag, but I did want to fill you in on what my doctors did today and what we’re hoping as the outcome.

If you remember, I had a corneal transplant last September that restored a pretty significant amount of vision. We were all certain that seeing my son Tyson’s face was all but a done deal, but sadly, a couple of days before he was born, I started noticing a drastic shift in my eyesight, and within a matter of three weeks I was back to unusable vision. There were a couple theories as to why this was the case, but ultimately none of the noninvasive treatment options touched it, and my corneal transplant ended up rejecting in January.

The problem isn’t so much that the corneal transplant rejected, but really the cause of this rejection. A few years ago, I had a string of retinal detachments and, at the time, the only way to remedy the issue was to inject silicone oil into the eye in order to help it hold its shape. Scar tissue in my eye continued pulling the retina loose, so this was a solution to help the eye retain its structure amidst all the chaos within. That’s fine and dandy, except that the silicone oil bares the risk of forcing rejection with transplanted corneal tissue – and therein lies our problem. My retina specialist really didn’t want to pull the oil unless absolutely necessary, but I’d say repeating the transplant every three or four months isn’t exactly the most functional solution – and luckily my doctors agree.

Every surgery I have offers a glimmer of hope that eyesight can be restored – but that all comes with a price. If the silicone oil is imperative to keeping the retina attached, there might not be any other option. The biggest question  here is – will enough scar tissue form as a result of this surgery, thereby pulling the struggling retina loose? The answer seems pretty fuzzy to all parties involved, so we’re just going to have to play the waiting game to see how it all pans out.

I’m not in too much pain, which is a good thing. I’m not a huge fan of the eye being patched, mainly because it’s just terribly uncomfortable, but they’ll remove it first thing in the morning. We should know fairly quickly whether any sight was gained from the repeated transplant. Then it’s another month or two as the swelling dies down from the surgery. It took exactly 30 days from the last surgery for me to start reading the clock on my iPhone, so I’m coming into this with pretty steep expectations. But, all that being said, I’m trying to remain patient and hopeful that something grand lies around the corner.

Of course – I’ll keep you up-to-date with the progress. If you’re a subscriber of the Daily Wag, maybe consider subscribing to my main blog, too. I also keep my Facebook and Twitter accounts filled with status updates from the doctor and such, so you should definitely head there and give me a follow, as well. Thanks so much for the support, encouragement, positive thoughts and well wishes. You all are just too kind. More soon.

the Daily Wag Days #19 and #20: Put a Little Boom in It

Saturday was short and sweet, which was fine with me seeing as how tired I’ve been the past few days. Sandy wanted to run a walk with Angela, which also means a stroller and Mandi, too, so that’s exactly what we did at 9AM. It was actually warm this morning – like toasty. We’ve plowed through torrential downpours, so a stroll through the neighborhood on a sunny, spring morning felt quite nice, and I think the pups agreed.

Piper handled being at the front of the pack just fine. She led well, wasn’t distracted by the entourage that followed and even aced the mailbox section in the middle of the route. What a dynamite gal! Mandi did pretty good, as well. It was difficult to not think about Larry, as the route felt comfortable and familiar, but it was a relief to know that our little pack, the Romack family, could tackle this new transition together. It definitely made for a good morning.

Sunday threw a bunch of fun stuff our way. Sandy wanted us to run the last leg of our Sonic route, which is basically a long stretch of road with several driveways, some of which being quite busy. On the way to Sonic, we really didn’t hit any trouble, despite the blustery wind that whipped at our ears, which really gave me fits as I tried auditory assessing traffic. We found a better way too get into Sonic, which felt a bit safer this time. Piper found a seat on the patio, which is a cinch with the “find a seat” command, and we sat and chat about the route a bit. Angela and Tyson ended up joining us, and we all grabbed a bite to eat and talked. I practiced “find the button” with Piper, which helped in locating the menu.

After working this part of the route backwards, we drove back to my house, where I started pulling drums out of storage. It was the moment I had been most nervous about – will Piper handle the drums? Larry was a bit scared at first, and rightfully so. The drums aren’t the quietest instrument out there, so it’s impressive how tolerant he was with his first exposure to them up close. Piper was skittish at first, but mostly because of the large cases. The hardware case, which has all my cymbal stands and accessories, seemed to cause her the most stress.

The introduction process is slow. I tapped the drums quietly with my fingers, making sure to give her treats and make the experience calm and pleasant. She was a bit apprehensive when I hit the ride cymbal with my finger, so I did a little work on winning her back. We stuffed a Kong toy full of peanut butter, and I started playing the drums, first with brushes, then with wooden rods and finally at full volume with sticks. She didn’t flinch, but I imagine she was absolutely fascinated with her peanut butter treat.

Bottom line – the drums are not an issue. It may take a few times to completely sell her on them, so I’ll just take her toy and some peanut butter and just repeat the exercise. It’s crazy how close we are to being on our own, which makes me sad to think about Sandy packing up and heading out. I’ve really had a fantastic time with her, too. Tomorrow is Piper’s vet appointment, so we’ll see what the rest of our week looks like once we’ve done that.

You know – I still plan on journaling thoughts about Piper and me even after training is complete. There’s a “settling in” phase that lasts several months, and honestly, it would be good to have an outlet to brag on her when she’s at the tip-top of her game. If you’re not already, go ahead and subscribe to the Daily Wag RSS feed, and never miss a single entry along the way. Thanks for supporting us each and every day – it means a ton.