What’s the Must-Have for a Stay-at-Home Daddy?

Next to his mom - this is the best co-worker you could ever ask for.

A stay-at-home mommy – duh. It’s been something Angela and I have discussed for years and years and years, but we never thought it’d be a reality. But alas, Angela comes home from work for good next week, aside from a few hours a week at our church nursery.

I’ll be completely honest with you – I never imagined we’d be a single income family, especially with my name on the paychecks. It’s not a bragging point because truthfully, we’re blessed to be in the position we are right now.

My business, Ontempo Ideas, has gained tons of steam since January, serving the digital marketing and communication needs of a handful of local and regional clients, and there’s enough work that a five-month-old just won’t accommodate during the day. Plus: I’m in need of some help in the visual media department, so my lovely wife is headed home to aide in the matter.

What does that all mean? It means more family time, more ministry, more hugs and kisses, more out-of-town trips to see friends and family, more lunch and coffee get-togethers with local friends and colleagues, more productivity, more business ventures, more side-projects, more stories, more laughs and, of course, more blog posts to catalog it all. And maybe the witty and talented @angelaromack will share her viewpoint, as well?

Buckle up, friends. The Romacks are about to become a stay-at-home family. We’re those people now.

Is This 91 or 92? Oh, Good Grief – I’ve Lost Count

It’s been, to the surprise of no one, a whirlwind since I arrived back in College Station a week and a half ago, which is why I’ve completely forgotten to share the fact that I had a surgery scheduled this morning. I still have journal entries coming for the Daily Wag, but I did want to fill you in on what my doctors did today and what we’re hoping as the outcome.

If you remember, I had a corneal transplant last September that restored a pretty significant amount of vision. We were all certain that seeing my son Tyson’s face was all but a done deal, but sadly, a couple of days before he was born, I started noticing a drastic shift in my eyesight, and within a matter of three weeks I was back to unusable vision. There were a couple theories as to why this was the case, but ultimately none of the noninvasive treatment options touched it, and my corneal transplant ended up rejecting in January.

The problem isn’t so much that the corneal transplant rejected, but really the cause of this rejection. A few years ago, I had a string of retinal detachments and, at the time, the only way to remedy the issue was to inject silicone oil into the eye in order to help it hold its shape. Scar tissue in my eye continued pulling the retina loose, so this was a solution to help the eye retain its structure amidst all the chaos within. That’s fine and dandy, except that the silicone oil bares the risk of forcing rejection with transplanted corneal tissue – and therein lies our problem. My retina specialist really didn’t want to pull the oil unless absolutely necessary, but I’d say repeating the transplant every three or four months isn’t exactly the most functional solution – and luckily my doctors agree.

Every surgery I have offers a glimmer of hope that eyesight can be restored – but that all comes with a price. If the silicone oil is imperative to keeping the retina attached, there might not be any other option. The biggest question  here is – will enough scar tissue form as a result of this surgery, thereby pulling the struggling retina loose? The answer seems pretty fuzzy to all parties involved, so we’re just going to have to play the waiting game to see how it all pans out.

I’m not in too much pain, which is a good thing. I’m not a huge fan of the eye being patched, mainly because it’s just terribly uncomfortable, but they’ll remove it first thing in the morning. We should know fairly quickly whether any sight was gained from the repeated transplant. Then it’s another month or two as the swelling dies down from the surgery. It took exactly 30 days from the last surgery for me to start reading the clock on my iPhone, so I’m coming into this with pretty steep expectations. But, all that being said, I’m trying to remain patient and hopeful that something grand lies around the corner.

Of course – I’ll keep you up-to-date with the progress. If you’re a subscriber of the Daily Wag, maybe consider subscribing to my main blog, too. I also keep my Facebook and Twitter accounts filled with status updates from the doctor and such, so you should definitely head there and give me a follow, as well. Thanks so much for the support, encouragement, positive thoughts and well wishes. You all are just too kind. More soon.

Simmer Down, Employers – I’m Off the Job Market

Many of you have been keeping tabs on me with regards to my employment status, so I’m happy to report that I’ve been on an assignment with my new gig for the past week and a half. It’s been pretty awesome, I must say, and I’ve definitely found myself in good company. The job comes with decent pay, some excellent benefits and a whole slew of on-the-job training and experience.

I figured I’d post a short list of some responsibilities found in the job description. I’m certain I wasn’t the most qualified candidate, but I think I’m filling my role quite nicely.

  • Foster a healthy environment for one-on-one communication with team members.
  • Construct an array of engaging resources for the development and growth of team members.
  • Monitor work environment and ensure it is kept tidy and organized at all times.
  • Adhere to schedule and time restraints with promptness and punctuality.
  • Assess and diffuse hostile and chaotic situations at a moments notice.
  • Deal with unfavorable and unsatisfactory team output swiftly, ensuring to file the proper paperwork.
  • Frequently assess sentiment of team members and strive to keep morale high – deploying any means necessary, regardless of how off the wall a solution may seem.
  • Encourage communication of team members with internal and external communities.
  • Use expert discretion to provide additional resources when necessary – or when team members are particularly fussy that afternoon.

This is one fussy team member - wouldn't you agree?Who doesn’t have “fussy” “team members”? It’s been quite the learning experience being a stay-at-home daddy. I can’t tell you how many profound lessons this little guy teaches me every single day. Couple that with attempting to build my business in the flitters of silence found during nap times, it’s a recipe for a long, long day.

It’s been interesting to explain my daily workload to friends, particularly those without kids of their own. A list like this is hardly an exaggeration, and I often find myself completely drained at the end of the day. Is it worth it? You bet.

I go back and forth on creating a separate stream of tweets for all the amusing little stories that come out of our day together. But for now, just go ahead and follow my primary Twitter account for funny stories, silly observations and a daily spit up tabulation.